Unless H has been diagnosed please don't self diagnose him. Stick to his behaviour instead. It is too easy to say narc, unless a professional has diagnosed stick to abusive or manipulative behaviour. It's enough and the reason why isn't important. Clearly I feel my WH is emotionally and financially abusive. I can manage my reaction to abuse and manipulation and I have no tools for me for a personality disorder. I strongly resist personality labels. I think they are unnecessary for you at this stage.

If your coach has recommended a course of action, then you should follow their guidance as far as you can. If you are unsure, then you are paying the coach give more info and request clarification. Act instead of react, if that makes sense.

Part of the reason these letters are important is because it releases you. It provides a focus and allows the bewilderment to stop. Dobson letters, if that's what your coach is recommending are part of the 12 step healing process.

The only reason I have trouble with them is in a fault state this may go against you in D. So it is a timing issue for me, rather than an if. So you may also need L input too.

Just my 2c

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 10/24/15 09:21 PM.
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