I read one of the articles on the Al Turtle web site today that mentioned a couple where the W. had left her husband after 22 years saying she couldn't forget something that happened between them 20 years ago.
Sadly they went on to divorce as she found someone who made her 'feel beautiful and loved" but after 5 months after the D was finalsed, she ended her new relationship as it was as bad, if not worse than with her now XH and tried to reconcile with her XH but he said "you lied to me for 20 years, how can I ever trust that you aren't lying to me again".
This struck a significant chord with me, albeit rather uncomfortably, as my W has said that she can't forgive me for something that happened between us 20 or so year ago.
My goals and plans have been focussed on trying to build connection with her but this simple story has really made me think, do I really want her back or am I simply holding onto memories and have a desire for getting back to what I know? The kids have and are consistently saying I'm better off without her and deserve someone better, maybe they are right?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
