Here's the start of a new thread, that I'd like to think will be the beginning of a new phase in my sitch - from thinking and reflecting to doing and making things happen.
In summary, my W BD'd me in late April 15 saying that ILYBNILWY and that she was leaving me (moved out in mid-May 15 after a big row) for her first love (who she went out with for 18 months and left him twice ) from when she was a teenager 28+ years ago and hasn't seen for 26+ years. He's has two failed marriages already and decided to destroy someone else's by contacting my W. through Facebook. No doubt with a "you were always the one for me, thirdr time lucky" tagline.
Our grownup S will not talk to (or see) my W because he sees her as having left the family many years ago to focus on her career (which she's now given up because it stressed her too much) and my grownup D (who has met with her once) is seeing my W as a messed up teenage friend rather than a mum; she's scared that her mum will simply disappear one day because she's decided to rebuild her life from scratch so in some ways is clinging onto her.
Both kids are in regular contact with me but I can tell that this is effecting them, my W said they'd recover and they will because they are strong individuals but they won't be the same.
My W and I haven't spoken for a couple of months now and barely communicate through email and text.
The legal process of the D is being pushed through by my W as she wants to buy an ocean going boat with the OM. The closest she'd been to one when we were together was sitting in a cafe at a marina and had never featured in our plans for the future.
I have some solid goals and plans for achieving what I want from life and am keeping up with ongoing GAL activities, although I have to say I do feel lonely even when amongst some really great people.
This forum gives me such amazing comfort and solace, if it wasn't for people like rd500, Vanilla, beckyb, mutatio, photoka, Rouky, Ancaire and all the others who have reached out to me, I'd be a huge mess - thanks guys.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
