Hey OhGreat,

Yes we do have face to face talks but they are usually at home, She did bring me to a restaurant to tell me in the past the separation is not going away to make sure I know where she was at with S.

Now DB does say change where you have conversations, so not in the home may be good. Not sure if I can avoid this talk.

Hello Fogg,

This came from what my youngest said to our baby sitter two days ago with him sitting on me, He told her she cant sleep over because daddy is sleeping in the spare bedroom because he sleeps better there (I told him this wordfor word , when I moved in the spare bedroom) it has been two months and its seared in his memory. This should have been my W's lie/guilt to tell.

I am going to sleep in my half of the bed and she can sleep where she wants. The couch, spare bedroom, she chose to sleep at her parents house. I will remember that I will sleep in my own bed in my own house.

She is so concerned with me telling the kids about the S, but its ok that it looks like I am leaving the M by leaving the MBR? I don't think so.


Me late 30's
W mid 30's
T 15, M 10
S4, S7
ILYBNILWY June 2015
In house S July 2015
W rings off Oct 2015
My ring off Feb 2015
Separate houses June 2016