So I've been thinking a lot about Mr. Fantastic's girlfriend situation and I am much calmer now. (Sorry, Claire, I'm going back to the sarcastic Mr. Fantastic, because he's just SO NOT, and the other name is just not sufficient for his awesomeness.)
Anyway, I'm sure that most of the dating he's been doing is of equally high moral fiber so I'm not going to worry about it. But my kids know his family. His girlfriend, as it turns out, is still living with her husband. ("Exclusive"?) She sticks around the house long enough to feed the kids and then several nights a week she goes off to spend the nights with Mr. Fantastic, then sneaks home early in the morning to be there when the kids get up. I'm sure her kids understand what's going on but to the outside world, she's still married.
I want to be able to communicate to my kids that it is NOT OK to interfere with other people's relationships like that. But obviously I can't throw their dad under the bus in that blatant way. I wish he didn't feel the need to bring my kids into his scenario but I had no argument ready for his concern that they would find out at school.
How can I raise my kids to respect the sanctity of marriage and family? How can I communicate to them that what he is doing is wrong?
As an additional note, he's told D12 that he's looking to buy a house after Thanksgiving. Now that I know his girlfriend is still living with her husband, I strongly suspect Mr. Fantastic intends to move her in with him when he buys the house. This is NOT going to end well.
Does anyone have any wisdom for parenting my kids through this debacle? I feel like they need guidance but not judgment on the situation. I don't want them to grow up to be self-absorbed sociopaths. I want to protect them from the crazy. Also, I'm very, very ashamed I gave them such a man for their father.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
