Hi everyone, thanks for the advice and support. So many questions to answer. The problems surfaced in January. She moved into the den mid summer. The silent treatment got worse from then till now.
When the silent treatment started I begged and pleaded, her response then was I am going to IC and working on myself. I say good morning each workday when she comes upstairs and she says hi over half the time. I gave up on good night. When I come how at 9 pm from my class(GAL) my IC said to say hi, but don't pursue. I haven't tried this yet and am reluctant to try. When she choses to chat about household things it is to the point, brief and see never looks me in the eye. She will start household conversations out of the blue and discuss them as much as she wants to. When I bring things up she is brief.
I think she expects that I respect her desire to be left alone. She said when she is in the den(her room now) she would like to be alone. She desires this and I have respected her wishes. I leave her alone. I try to engage her or include myself in dinner table conversations with the kids. She is brief and never looks at me. Other then that I leave her alone and give her what she wants.
I will not move out. I am willing to change my interactions with my wife but I will not move out. I cannot afford to move out, she can. I want to live with my son in our home till he goes to college in 3 years. I am willing to behave accordingly to make this work. There is no fighting, no overt tension, just no warmth between us from the kids perspective.
I do not go to her any more to discuss "us" anymore. I come here. I understand my situation appears bleak. I will try V's rainbow strength. What is "NH sitch"?
