Quick update : The event was fun-- all women but I finally met someone in my area who was the LBS. Most of the divorced women I know (and I don't know too many to begin with) were the ones who left. So it was nice to share our stories a bit and have some delicious wine!
There was even more scheduling emails from stbx...I suggested that we set a date to go over it all once a month. ("You mean like a phone call? ") yes stbx, it can be a phone call; we don't have to actually sit down together in person if being in the presence of my awesomeness would make you uncomfortable. Haha!)
The good news is he agreed that would make things more efficient.
Another positive is that he stepped up to help out when my D4 was sick this week, AND we calmly found a solution (which had typically been a huge source of stress and anxiety in the past). I am a very different person than I used to be, and more and more I'm starting to feel sorry for him and his Gf. What's the story she told her family? How proud can you be to be with a man who left his wife and small child? Is he really such a prize? What must his own mother think of him that he basically left his beautiful intelligent wife, who was struggling with PPD and is now much healthier, for a younger woman from work?! When her own H did that to her! So icky all around.
He's a fool,and even if I can't stay in this home, I'm better off without him and D4 and I will be great.
