When all this was going on, how often did you flirt with her? Not just wanting sex, but actually flirting and playing around with her physically?
Mr Bond: Back in 2012 when she accepted me back and gave me a list of improvements and thoughts she had about me, I continued to DB, but mostly the easy stuff (how to improve me, GAL etc) the sex and intimacy issues weren't addressed.
As I have said we tried with sexy lingerie and toys etc but only occasionally did she put them on and I was still incapable of initiating sex. I am quite introverted, flirting doesnt come naturally, and the Mr Nice Guy type, dont rock the boat even when you know things are wrong.
Over the next 2 years things were ok but drifting, drifting and she put more and more barriers up and started to go out more without me. Again Mr Nice Guy didnt rock the boat, until she started to cut me off completely physically.
Then I protested, Oct 2014. We have no QT together, no connection because of no QT. How can we connect when we dont go out together etc etc. After a big Row in Dec 2014 she said she would make more QT for us and things improved.
But again it drifted, I always had the feeling that she hadn't reconnected but was making an effort without her heart (desire) in it.
Jan 2015 and Feb 2105 were good. She 'missed' me when I was away on business - always a good sign temp check. We sexted a little bit as well.
But again the drift set in.
In all other ways we connect very well. I have been very very supportive when she vented about her work, bought her gifts, even dresses, always, thoughtful gifts at birthday and Xmas, lots and lots of foot massages - her favourite massage.
But you are right I didnt flirt enough (at all) or mess around physically other than long hugs,
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
