As hard as it to accept, surely her attitude is born from the WW position, Resentment, Disrespect, and Rebellion (Sandi2).
All 3 are seen in her cold distancing, W doesnt want you near her.
Sorry if this sounds cold but I am facing a similar sitch with in house separation.
This morning my W has been cold and usually this means she is leading up to an R discussion and she will reiterate we need to separate. She cant force me to go, but she wants me to go, Resentment builds and builds, she rebels by doing all activities separate from me. I hadn't had much outward disrespect. No shouting, bullying, spewing, controlling but it is there. Disrespect because I wont leave.
No amount of rainbow love will change her stance. She resents your presence.
In my sitch I am thinking of granting her wish and separating. Financially it will be very difficult and I will set ground rules and boundaries before doing so, but I wont be able to say 'lets do a x month trial separation. The separation will have to be openended.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
