V - thanks so much for taking the time to spell things out a bit, for me. I'm doing a really great job of focusing on me, staying out of H' s way, and not calling attention to myself.
I'm kind of stuck for now, but hope that situation changes soon. I'm feeling really uneasy for some reason. Sticking close to my kids. The minute I can, I'm out of here. This situation feels like a pressure-cooker. L visit Monday at 10. Not speaking to H, so no reason for him to find out.