She Left, not as unsure (2)

[Shrike]

I wanted to preface, by saying im not panicking, just some of thoughts for today. I tried to take another look at my situation without emotional attachment.

I do not know if this unique or not to my sitch.. but this is why I feel such extreme loss right now. She is not acting wild beyond that fact that she said she was unhappy and left me.

I get she is rebelling against the marriage. But to her, we are over. And to her she didn't start talking to this OM ''seriously'' until after we where separated. She said she always shut him down prior.

Now to me if she had REALLY shut him down, like I had asked, then he wouldn't have kept talking to her. And she wouldn't have asked to separate me after moving to work at the new gym where he goes... I don't believe in coincidence that much..

When I take a step back, I actually see she is cutting me out of her life, very meticulously, which I don't know if I like more or less than her going out and being destructive.

She has not been going out and going crazy from what I can tell.

What I have been reading says the ww or waw will try to string the LBH along to keep power over him. But my W has done the opposite it seems, at least to me. She does not text me or call, unless it is about our kid or finances.

And because my W has said things like:

''I need to kill the love I have for you, and everyday it gets easier''

''You need to grieve me and move on''

''I did not expect you to wait around for me''

''I understand if we cant be friends''

''Thank you for doing the work to split up the bank accounts and phone bills etc etc...''

''I am talking to another guy, but only small talk and will not move past this until divorce is final, I do not want to disrespect you''

The last one I dont know if I believe but it is what it is.

Hit me with 2x4's if need be. Or feedback, ill take either