I am going to hijack this thread for a minute if that is ok? I just read the blog about the grey rock technique. This is what I've been doing with my MIL for awhile now, without knowing the name. I keep the conversation as impersonal and boring as possible. I stopped reacting since BD. I have apologized and said everything was my fault but then I disengaged from discussing it further and will not. At what point is my H going to realize this dynamic? He thinks his mother has been "right all along" and now I need to make amends for destroying her life. I say nothing, but "I am sorry, that must be hard" but how can he not see what is happening? Its going to take her doing something to really piss him off, isn't it? I am guessing probably something at the expense of my kids. There is nothing else I can do, is there?
