The book of Lou - Chapter 4

[Sotto]

Hi Lou, I see lots of hope in your sitch. Your H wants to reconnect, he's aware that he needs to do some introspection and has things he wants to tackle, he's seeing an IC, dealing with financials and so on.

I can understand that for you, there's a big change in that he now features to an extent in your plans. And I can also understand the feelings of impatience - that must be difficult. We love our spouses and we hope that our M's might be saved. Of course it matters a lot to us if our spouse gives signs of wanting to reconnect.

However, he's also honest that there are things he needs to sort and he needs time to do that. I think if you can manage it, proportionality is the way to go. Think about how significant a part he plays in your life right now - and move ahead with your life on that basis. Right now, you guys are at the early stages of exploring whether you enjoy being in contact and spending time together. You're out of touch for a few days and then in touch again, then not. All of that sounds fine.

I think the best plan is to keep ploughing your own furrow for much of the time, but respond (and initiate sometimes) in respect of your H. Also remember, quick normally isn't good at times like these - slow is better.

Hope you have a lovely weekend xx