It's where your h let's say, gets a family member onside. They openly pick your faults. Your at the dinner table, you do somthing they don't like, your h might allow and openly encourage other family run you down for that then and there at the table.
If you object this picking might get worse and then you are accused of being not polite. It's takes away your right to stand up, using polite society's rules.
Or you need your h, but h says no because another family member rates higher or their need is greater. The insuation can be when you object of being selfish and not giving. Thus taking away your right to have needs feelings and then adding hurt. It's a way to get what they want at the expense of your needs.
It can be as simple as making you feel like you have to compete and justify every need. It keeps you off balance, and working hard.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
