Wife moved out and filed for divorce

[Azzork]

Feelings change?
Is that a positive sign?

If you feel hungry and you eat, are you still hungry?

If you feel happy and your dog dies, are you still happy?

If you feel angry and time passes, are you still angry?



Its not necessarily a positive or a negative. It just means that they change. And as such, you should continue to work on you regardless of her feelings of anger, resentment, sadness, etc. Because they will change over time.

[Bobbyb]

Just feeling depressed since the brief meeting with my wife.
Over-analyzing my interaction with her.
Being told that she doesn't like being around me, and gets anxious when around me.
Does this mean there is no hope. Trying to stay positive.

[Bobbyb]

Looks like the marriage won't be saved.
Have a settlement conference next Monday.

[MrBond]

Throughout your whole situation, did you EVER read the DB or DR books?

Be honest now. Many people have asked you what you did to betray her trust and you've always danced around the question. If you don't tell us we can't help. Your marriage can still be saved but we need more info.

[MrBond]

Are you still here? I will say it again. Your situation can be saved

[Bobbyb]

How

[MrBond]

You need to first explain what happened before rather than being elusive about it. The more details we have the better we can help.

[Bobbyb]

I continued to lie to her about something she didn't want me doing..and when it came out in counseling I immediatly stopped..but I guess it was too late.. she said she didn't trust me anymore. That is really the crux of it. I know you want more details..but she said it's not what I did..It's the fact I continued to do it

[MrBond]

Again, what is it that you lied to her about? We need SPECIFICS. If you keep being vague, then we can't tackle the problem.

[MrBond]

Look, you may not think it's important, and it may not be. But we've been around for awhile and what your W says and actually does are two different things. You said you continued to do it, okay, but what was it that you kept doing?

I understand it may be something you're embarassed or ashamed of, but we can help with whatever it is. Trust me, we've heard alot.