Even if you are in an M, it is still your responsibility to look after your kids and family.
It is normal to say shall I get the card or will you? What shall we get for grandma's birthday? I have an extra Xmas present for D, I found a card for mothers day for your mum. I thought I would take S15 go kart. I am thinking of taking D to the theatre for her birthday. Etc etc.....
Otherwise you are on the sidelines.
Just my thoughts
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW