I haven't posted for a while because my life has been a bit crazy and my H hasn't had any contact with me for over 2 months. Today, I got an email at work asking me to call him at my convenience. I waited a couple of hours, then called him. What he asked me surprised me so much, I was not prepared for an answer.
I would have waited at least 48 hours before responding.
My H, who I haven't physically seen in over 9 months has the ba**s to tell me, not ask me, that he was going to buy a house in the city that he has been living in for the past 3 years!
I would just say " thanks for letting me know"I see nothing wrong with him doing this, he is moving on.
I didn't know what to say.
"Have you any particular house in mind"
He didn't say anything about how we were doing or that he wanted to work on us, he just expects me to go along with this.
Yes. I am not surprised. There isn't anything to indicate that you will be working on your M? He has been quiet for 9 months.
WHAT IS GOING ON INSIDE HIS HEAD?
He wants his own house to live in. Seems reasonable to him.
Is this his way of forcing me to ask for a divorce because he is too much of a coward to do it? Or because he doesn't want to be the bad guy? I don't get it! Why doesn't he ask me for a divorce before trying to buy a house? Am I crazy?
The two things aren't linked in his mind. It's straight forward, he wants his own house to live in.
He said he was going to send me an email with the specifics of the documents he needs.
If he does and you have them, give him what he needs. If necessary through an L.
Is he so dense that he doesn't understand that we are still married and I will have to sign at closing?
If he doesn't then he soon will.
How do I approach this?
Get L advice.
What do I say to him?
I am unclear and I will look into it. I will let you know as I can see this is a priority to you. Validate.
I don't think this is a good idea from my side or his side.
Deal with the toys in your sandbox, he deals with his.
Does anyone have any words of wisdom?
Wisdom no, get an L who may!
Do I need to get a lawyer involved?
In my view yes.
Has anyone else been in this situation?
No, but my WH tried to establish an interest into the Big House, which I own after he left.
Sorry for the rambling. I really need some guidance! Has anyone else had the same situation? Please send me some suggestions on how I should proceed!
My views are above. Letc your WH find out his position for himself. You look after yours.
I know I haven't been on the site for a while and I feel guilty asking for help, but l am very confused.
That's what this board is for, if others don't want to post they won't! Guilt is an issue for you?
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I agree with your bestie's comments above.
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Last edited by Vanilla; 10/23/1506:54 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
