Start tomorrow by giving your son a card. Resist putting down W's actionswhen chatting with your son. Concentrate on rebuilding your R with him and other son.

Accept where you are in your M. Rebuild you and R with kids. I would add caution to not enter into a game of one upmanship each trying to outshine the other. When you are the best you can be, decide what you want to do about M/R.

It is tough. Good luck.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together