Triangulation (Differences between WAHs and WAWs 4

[JulieH]

Photoka, I am feeling a little bad that family is involved. Now they don't want to be around husband. He is upset about it and feels that family should look past it for good of children. Now, a lot of it is through their own observation (not me complaining). Because he was living with my family and very depressed and detached they witnessed some pretty selfish behaviors (neglecting kids, and me) and then leaving and not providing support. So upon more reflection, I don't think it was triangulation. There was one episode, where 1 of his family members was criticizing me because of my family involvement and basically saying it's not in best interest of kids for my family to not want to be around my husband. I told him about how husband was perceived and he had no clue about what I was dealing with financially. This might have been triangulation but at time I felt I was defending myself and my family.