Hi is, that email... I cringes when I bread it. Not because I did not feel your pain, or because I believe you don't feel that longing...it is because it is something that i swear we feel like we have to do and it will not help. I've done it too.
Here is the deal that I've s3en. When we send these kinds of notes when we are dealing with any kind of WAW, they read it as...'no matter what you are going theough, my needs are more important right now. No matter if ypubAre trying, you are not trying hard enough. Even if you feel like your needs are not being met by me, I want you to meet mine' or at least something to that affect.
My wife knows I want her. She does not need me to tell her over again how much inwantnsex or spooning or whatever.
Yes I want those things. She is not in a position to give them to you right now. Period. If she does, it will only be pretend and it will be hollow and just build more resentment up.
We have to ask ourselves before we swndnthese sorts of notes -,does this sentiment come from a place of compassion and caring? How is this going to get usbcloser together?
Again...I do this too often writing notes to others that I'm trying to give the message to me., not chastising you...rather seeing things you've said and, because sometimes I don't see it in myself first.
