Maybe "closure" was the wrong word. I meant more like, where will I be in a year? As if I had a crystal ball and could know what is to come for me... Insight may fit better to express what I meant.
I know what you mean.
You dont want to be with someone else until you know for sure that you have no chance of ever getting back with XF. And if you know you arent ever getting back with XF, why wait a year to find that out, when you could be looking for someone new, now. Am I close?
The way I see it, our lives are like a choose your own adventure book. Sure, you can read one of the ending pages now, but without the story in the middle, it wont make sense. Not to mention, if you dont choose that pathway through the book, you wont ever even read that ending.
In my opinion, theres no point on focusing on the ending, because it will be written based on the choices you make differently. If you didnt like the ending in a year, youd make different choices today, right? Instead, visualize the ending that you want and make choices that get you closer to that vision.
