She mentioned something in our session last night about about the separation, space, and all and said something to the effect of not knowing how to make things work again (I can't recall exactly). I wanted to tell her that just have to try and let things happen. Guess that wouldn't have been a good thing to say, eh?
Actually that is a hook she threw in the water, trying to get you to bite. My advice is to stay away from those type of statements, "I just don't know if it would work". That is a trap. You get into a R talk, which is not good. No matter how positive you may try to be.....she'll get you every time. Do not discuss the C sessions, period!
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When I walked in, the first thing she asked was what I thought about our couples session last night. I told her that it seemed to go well.
Why not say, "Oh, IDK. What did you think?"
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But that friendship and emotional connection was key, and they are so very intertwined.
Sure, if your W is working on saving the M.
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My counselor is great. We also spent a good deal of time discussing the book Codependent No More that she let me borrow. She has been great in helping me to see a lot the things I was doing and helped me to discover why, which is really the key for me.
Great!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
