Where to begin? Part 2

[Dawgs]

So, just got back from my own counseling session (she is the same counselor that sees us both).

When I walked in, the first thing she asked was what I thought about our couples session last night. I told her that it seemed to go well. My counselor seemed to think that my W's fog is lifting. For example, she mentioned the fact that my W was adamant about me coming down to her family's for the holidays. She also said there were a lot of little things, expressions, and actions that told her, too. We have been going to this counselor for quite a while now and both of us really like her.

We came up with a plan - keep doing what I am doing because she thinks it is working. Now I didn't tell her about the DB techniques, I just called them different things. Also, she said to keep working on the friendship part and rebuilding the emotional connection. She - as everyone on here - said to keep any relationship talk out of it and to let the W decide when to start talking about that (I swear its like she is reading this place). But that friendship and emotional connection was key, and they are so very intertwined.

My counselor is great. We also spent a good deal of time discussing the book Codependent No More that she let me borrow. She has been great in helping me to see a lot the things I was doing and helped me to discover why, which is really the key for me.

Guys, I want to say that its as if I feel a new and better me. Of course, there are still tinges of the wild emotion ride, but I feel a whole lot better about myself and things. She said she could tell and that she thinks the W notices, too. She mentioned how the W joked with me last night and touched my arm (which I completely forgot about).

My goal is keep working on myself and becoming the best person I can be. Tonight I will try to run for five miles and then some other exercises, too. I am going to get back to when I was in the best shape of my life!