have i been making mistakes too long part 6

[tkdmme]

Also, I keep getting the "you should do this for the kids" lecture. She is referring to me refinancing with her to lower our house payment so that she can afford it on her own. She is also referring to things like fixing her car, mowing the lawn, things of this nature. I don't know how to respond to this.

Another thing that has been brought up lately is that she thinks im using the kids against her. I pray with my kids every night before bed and I always invite her to join us. she says that im inviting her to make her look bad in front of the kids. I thought about this and agreed not to invite her anymore. She has joined us every night since. I told her about a new sushi restaurant in town the other night. we both love sushi. I told her that is was very good and asked if she would like to go one night. My S7 overheard this and said "go have dinner with your husband". I caught a lot of spew over this. She takes everything I say and do as manipulation. I am just trying to be friendly and lighten the atmosphere at the house.

Sunday morning she told me that she wanted to go to church with us. So I said "no problem". I got the kids ready and we were waiting in the car for her. Her mother pulled in the driveway and said that the W had called her for a ride to church. I guess the W will not even ride in a car with me for 10 minutes.

I realize that asking her to have dinner is pursuing behavior and I don't know why I did this. At the time we had been getting along pretty well and I guess I wanted to see if she would have dinner with me. Stupid mistake. Right?