I wouldn't have the relationship talks until you are certain you will get a positive response. If you are unsure, leave it alone. This is outlined in the DR book.
Give her some time to digest what was said with the counselor. If you have the talks with her, that will feel like pressure and pursuing to her.
You will know without a doubt when the tides have changed. She will come to you with relationship talks.
Keep being patient, you don't want to scare her off.
