You know, these days when I think of marriage I see it as more of a business partnership.
Zues, my M was a business partnership, a good one. It still is. It's not enough. I loved STBX, I still do, but I didn't have a deep emotional connection with him, and although our physical connection was good, it was frequent, it wasn't what I wanted, we never got there after 25 years. Obviously, something was missing for him, too, he criticized me for 20 years and then left. I almost said "and then cheated and left" but truth is, this isn't the first time he was unfaithful, it was just the first time it was so in my face that I admitted it.
I'm not disputing that a M needs to have a good business partnership model, I think a lot of people go the other way, they think that just because they are head over heels in love then it will all work out. I don't believe that for a second, I tried that one also. I know that going forward, I'm looking for both.
