Here's the thing TK - you get to decide what you want to do in your own life. Your IC gets to decide what he wants to do in his life. Please take your time and don't be too influenced by others who have a view on what you should do at any given time. You can just say to them - thanks for your perspective; I'll give that some thought.
In terms of your sitch, I would comment that it is still relatively early days and I can recall - I think it was Wonka - posting that few sitches turn around even within nine months. It sometimes takes a significant period of time for the WAS to begin to see the LBS and the former M in a more positive light. Often they have to have a few difficult experiences of 'green grass' before their perspective begins to change. And some never turn back. We just don't know.
From what you post of your W, she has yet to take responsibility for her own inputs - blaming you for her drinking and drug use, smirking. Yet on the other hand she feels you'll meet someone great and she'll be alone and miserable....and probably dead soon. She's still all over the place. Strikes me that she is a prime age for MLC and is saying some stuff that has an MLC ring to it. Might be worth you having a read about that.
She may not be happy with the person you're trying to become - but let's not worry about her for now....are you happy with the person you're becoming?
Hang on in there I would say.....but work on your detachment, boundaries, protection measures and have a read about MLC. Also, is in-house S working for you and your family/sitch or is it time to review that? I think in-house S's always sound like the toughest sitches of all.
Take care my friend xx
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
