Yes, fear is the big thing to overcome. Fear that we will drive someone away, not have contact with them, not be loved any more.

The big thing to realise is that the worst has already happened. Our WAS's have gone at BD. We already lost them. However, it may be possible that they return at some point. But likely not some point soon.

It's important to face your fear and not be led by it in your interactions with her. I remained fearful of D for a good while and when I lost that fear and knew I would be okay if we D'd, it was freeing.

I hope the convo went well if you guys did have one. :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus