I agree with others above. Please talk to S14 about what is going on and what he wants. A child needs to know his parents are there for him and that HE is a priority. It doesn't sound like he is getting that with your W.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-