I was right there where you are at at this very time 2 years ago, Nov 8 2013 my W officially moved out ... I let her take everything thinking ... 1-2 months tops. I was not a member here at the time, I made a few mistakes but one of them was not begging ... asking her how she was. There was a moment she asked to talk .. in tears asking me if she was making the right move and I told her that is for her to answer ... I was angry she would move out .. little did I know the entire picture back then.
otw .... she fired you , you asking her if she is OK, it is you caring I get that .. but its also you afriad and pursuing, hoping to catch a glimpse of doubt so you can play that note to your advantage. I get it ... trust me I get it ... but look at it from the outside ... its not attractive.
She may second guess things, most likely she has doubts but that being said any wrong move by you will just add to the justifications she has been collecting up to this point. Let her go ... she needs to FEEL this without you. I did not lift a pinkie helping W move, her circus her monkeys ... she hired a crew to move OUR things into a condo. The WORST part of that whole thing ... was the Thanksgivings dinner, I ate it alone in an empty house, was leftovers from the work party ... that was my rock bottom.
We wait for the WAS to hit rock bottom and come out of the fog ... I believe the LBS has to hit it too ... in order to really do the work that will be required from her on out. Try as we might warn you here ... advise you there ... its really you who holds the key and the power to this entire thing though at this moment you feel like you are on a runaway train ... trust me when I say it gets better ... it really does .. regardless of what she does or puts you through.
She has to feel serious loss to rethink her actions ... approach this move as a step in that direction ... be wise and use this time to transform yourself into a better otw ... otw 2.0 as I have coined it. Time to get to work my friend.
