Avanti, thank you so much for the tip. I read his stuff and it really resonates with me. Our therapist uses the mirroring technique as well. I wish we could have done this years ago. With the help of IC I'm realizing my H has always been very dismissive of me and what I think and it has been a great source of frustration with me when he would begin sentences with "YOU think" or You feel".
Gerogiabelle, This made me laugh out loud: "Time doesn't stand still just because your h is sipping martinis at the Ritz while you are singing "Old McDonald" to your child." Hahaha. But so true. And you are right. I told him in therapy yesterday that I'm using this as an opportunity to grow. He was happy to hear that. I asked him to let go of the guilt as well. My focus is on growing, acquiring new skills and meeting new people.
Oh and my new CC arrived today ;-) First step towards independence.
