LBH w/ WW who moved out

[Sotto]

Hi Oatmeal, I don't think the convo you describe is going to go well. From a DB POV, it is best not to have a R talk at all if you can avoid it. And if she does want a R talk, best to purely give her the message that you accept her decision and will be making your own plans.

As a general rule, try and avoid talking about what 'she's done' and talk about what you are going to do. She is involved with someone else right now. Certainly an EA and possibly a PA. What does this mean for you? That you'd still like to spend time with her in Hawaii?

My H spent a while after BD saying he was lost and confused. Didn't know what he wanted (but he was continuing his A.) What I should have said to him at the time was that I have no intention of putting my life on hold whilst he carries on a R with someone else.

Above all, avoid appearing desperate for signs of approval from her. Her heart is elsewhere just now and may be for some time. Now that may change, but for now accept she is gone and make your own plans. I actually think the best thing for today might be to have some last minute plans crop up and leave her to it!