thank you so much for all the insight and help. I can definitely see my thoughts of punishing her. That's a terrible attitude. I need to keep working on me and not be afraid to reassure her slightly when she brings up OW.
Headed to court now. Thanks all
It's not about reassurance ... You do not want her to think you are her puppet... It's more about setting a tone that you will conduct yourself to a standard you have set for yourself and you will not settle for less....not from yourself, her, or anyone else in your life ... Start being the captain of your ship instead of a spectator
