thank you so much for all the insight and help. I can definitely see my thoughts of punishing her. That's a terrible attitude. I need to keep working on me and not be afraid to reassure her slightly when she brings up OW.

Headed to court now.
Thanks all

Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place