Sorry you find yourself needing to be here. I read your sitch and see parallels between yours and mine. For different reasons, my W has been very emotionally distant for a long time. I know how tough that is.
If you would permit me to lightly chastise you, you said:
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My actions of the past are to blame for our current situation.
The truth is that both you and your wife's choices are to blame for where you are now. The blame is not all on your shoulders even though you may feel that way (I certainly did) at times, and even though you are taking the initial responsibility on your own for getting your marriage back on track.
I also responded much the same way as you did in the beginning. The DB/DR stuff really helps because it's about getting YOU back as the most important step in making it possible to move forward into a better R with your W.
IC has also been good for me because having someone to talk to who is confidential and objective and experienced is a good thing.
If your school year ends in mid-2016, that gives you a lot of time to make important changes and to allow her to experience and witness them, especially if you are still living together.
