Wife wants to separate at end of school year

[sandi2]

Glad you found the right forum. If you'll post often and stick with us,I think you'll get the best support around.

So, let me get this straight. You knew she had been growing more and more distant the past five years.......or she told you? B/c if you have known for five years, why the heck didn't you decide to change "before" she was done with the M? You could not have been that blind, since she was not asking for a date night (which I don't think a W should have to ask), and she wouldn't say ILY unless you pressured her.......so what was the deal with you? Nothing but selfishness? Although you saw the MR deteriorating?

I am just trying to wrap my head around this situation. Not that it's anything new around here. There are others in the same boat here on the DB board. As you read more threads, you will see how eerily similar the stories become.

I was selfish and irresponsible and did not take my wife's feelings into consideration. I have never cheated or had an affair.

Has she? I mean, a lot of women in her shoes would find another man who appreciated her more than her H.

Okay, so I will lay the 2x4 down. What have you done, thus far, about changing yourself and becoming the man you once were?

Let me caution you, as you prepare to take this journey, don't start focusing on becoming what you think is her version of the perfect husband. Why? B/c most LBH's miss the mark when they think they know what women want in a H. Don't try to be "super husband" or even "super dad". Just be a great dad, while you are trying to find balance in life and becoming the man you need to be.

Tell us what you were like when she fell in love with you.