Can ALL marriages be saved Vol. 2

[Georgiabelle]

Gmum,

I haven't posted here much lately and I am certainly no expert. I have read your entire sitch and you seem like a nice lady who really wants to do the right thing. I know how challenging it can be with young kids:)

This is all so very difficult. After BD, if feels like someone slapped you in the face and punched you in the stomach. And they keep doing it repeatedly....

My 2 cents....and I say this to everyone who quotes "affair stats". Forget the average of how long an affair lasts. Don't let 9 months, 18 months, 3 years, etc color your thinking. An affair will last as long as it lasts. I know many people who married their APs. I don't say that to be discouraging rather to remind you that you can want to save your marriage, yet your primary focus should be on becoming the absolute best Gmum you can be-for you and your child.

It is difficult to watch them in pain. However, detachment helps you see that it is just that-THEIR pain. Time doesn't stand still just because your h is sipping martinis at the Ritz while you are singing "Old McDonald" to your child. Nope. You only get one chance at this life, so the sooner you take the focus off him and shift the focus to you, then you will notice real changes.

It sounds like you have some good things going on in life. Let your h be and your job is not to make things "easy" for him. It's also not your job to teach him a lesson as the universe has a way of working that stuff out.

Hang in there. Cheers!