Hi kml, s14 could move in with me if I moved, yes. But I live with d21 right now and she is doing so well - full time school and a job, that I don't want to disrupt her life. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment.
One thing W and I agree on is trying to minimize disruption in s14's life. And his attending the same school with the friends he has made there, is one way to do this. He has moved 3 times in the past 3 years.
W and I live in different cities, so if I took over custody of s14, he would have to change schools. And it is a tight fit in the apartment anyway.
Thanks kml for letting me explain the background on this.
