determined to overcome this storm part 3

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Hi avanti. I have so many goals I just don't know how to achieve them. I have written them down but have a hard time of doing them or getting them done. I have read the Dr book like 3 times. I cannot set boundaries. I'm so scared these boundaries will push him away. He says that there is no hope for us. He says move on cause I have. What kind of boundaries do i set. What kind of goals do I want. These are the steps that are holding me back.
I have been detaching and have slightly gone dark. I only see him at nights. But starting tonight I will start being a stranger to him. I hate the things he was telling me just now. How can he buy me a anniversary gift last year and a month later cheat on me and then tell me I never cared for him or his feelings. I don't know. I know I haven't been doing right and have been here since March. I'm acting like I'm his door mat. 2nd choice. Why do I act like this. I have confidence of finding someone who will care more for me but my heart wants my h. But I will continue to concentrate on me and my kids. I won't believe everything he says. I told him to really think about who really cared for him. For 1 year of having an affair I still respected him I still cared for him and all he did was continue to have an affair and forget who i was. But it's OK cause it makes me want to work harder on myself so I can be the best. And only a fool want to leave. He needs to really work on himself but I DDon't think he knows he needs work to be done on himself. He thinks that he's right about everything and that he's better off single.