determined to overcome this storm part 3

[Avanti]

Hello overcom, I am not yet up to speed with your sitch what I can see though is you've been through and are going through some tough times, yet you are dealing with them incredibly well. You've also been getting some really good advice and support from others on this forum that has undoubtedly helped you.

What I see of your H is he's a mr nice guy (being a reforming one I can spot them a mile off) who got disillusioned with his life and rather than dealing with it went AWOL thinking it would make him feel better and it doesn't.

You've said that he's back in the house and the OW is history (which is potentially a good thing), although even when he wasn't you seemed to spend a lot of time being aware of what he was doing, you focussed on him and his antics that in some small way may seem to him like pursuing.

What brought me over here initially was your saying on Photoka's thread that you are finding it difficult to set or write down goals, why do you think that is? Is it about the correct wording? Getting them to cover the right areas? Or are you a bit scared of them because you might not achieve them? The last one is very common and something I used to experience.

Given where you are in your sitch it's probably time to get your head into your goals and a plan that will give you a new focus and will in many ways make your life that little bit easier.

Have you picked up the DR book recently? If not, start at the beginning and work you way through to the goal setting section, these are the fundamentals and are in many ways the key to DB'ing.

Once you've done that post questions that come up and there are many here who can help you to start moving in the right direction. There are many different ways to tackle the goals and plans subject and once you've discovered the best way for you, it'll become a pleasure and something you'll really enjoy as you'll be growing.