Slow and steady .. Only way to get through the fog

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Hi Cali, I'm sorry things are tough right now. I have read so many times how difficult piecing is. As Mleigh says - part of me also longs for it - but equally it is a mountain to climb.

When you are DBing, you are truly master/mistress of your own destiny. And once you have the techniques under your belt - off you go. Yes, there is pain and loss, but you are also doing new stuff and meeting new people.

In piecing, you are opening back up to your spouse, and learning how to rub along together in a new way which isn't easy. Plus, from what you post, your W is still processing things and her own issues don't yet sound resolved. I just wonder whether some more support might be of benefit in your sitch? Did you guys consider seeing an MC together....or did your W consider seeing an IC at all?

Hopefully someone with more wisdom than I can offer will stop by too Cali. But in the meantime, here's a big hug from across the pond ((((((((((Cali))))))))))