Goal: I want to be a better mother to S4 [/color]- I will not lose my temper - I will validate his feelings - I will speak softly - I will call to say good night when we aren't together - I will plan one new GAL activity for us - I will give him my undivided attention while playing[color:#6600CC]
Goal: Show compassion towards H [/color]-I will validate when speaking to him -I will thank him 2x weekly for things I wouldn't have normally - I will take deep breaths before responding to texts - I will have S4 call to say goodnight when they are apart - I will make eye contact when we see each other[color:#6600CC]
Goal: I will co-parent with the best of them [/color]- I will put aside our differences for S4's well being when making decisions - I will inform him of matters pertaining to S4 and ask his opinion - I will reinforce my boundaries - I will send pictures of milestones with S4 so he doesn't feel left out[color:#6600CC]
Goal: Be a better me [/color]- I will continue to attend church on Sundays - I will go to my weekly plans without fail - I will exercise 2x a week - I will catch up with my friends and see how they are doing - I will continue to make my home feel like mine[color:#6600CC]
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
Goal: I am a better mother to S4 which makes us connect joyously - I have not lose my temper - I have validated his feelings at least once every day - I am speaking softly - I am calling to say good night when we aren't together - I have planned one new GAL activity for us - I have give him my undivided attention while playing
Goal: Show compassion towards H to ease our communication -I have validated when speaking to him when appropriate - I am thanking him 2x weekly - I always take deep breaths before responding to texts - I ask S4 if we can call to say goodnight when they are apart - I make eye contact when we see each other
Goal: I proudly co-parent with the best of them - I minimise our differences for S4's well being when making decisions - I politely and firmly inform him of matters pertaining to S4 and ask his opinion which I consider carefully - I reinforce my boundaries - I send pictures of milestones with S4 so he has the opportunity to feel included
Goal: Be a better me so only a fool would leave - I continue to attend church on Sundays - I update my weekly plans without fail - I exercise 2x a week - I catch up with my friends daily and see how they are doing - I continue to make my home feel like mine
I added a couple of tiny finishing touches, I hope you like them. phrasing this way makes the brain accept in the subconcious as a done deal. Also sounds like PMA.
You are doing great on this
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 10/20/1501:10 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Hi ep. I'm new to your sitch but your goals look and sound good. I can't give any advice as I'm stuck on setting goals and actually writing them down. But I'm here if you need to vent. Lol..
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
How are you feeling now that you've written down your goals?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
