I can tell you having been there a while...the more you try to understand or make sense out of her behavior, the more confused you will likely get. It's like trying to understand a fire.
Better to just stay far enough back where the air is clear and cool, the oxygen is plentiful, and the fire doesn't look so big and difficult to extinguish.
Can't extinguish it anyway. Only she can. Or it will burn itself out.
