We are just separated right now. Considering we are both on work visas here (well she is attached to my work visa), any divorce as final would send her back home thus she is holding steady for now. No legal separation unfortunately (which I should probably go back to my atty for advice there) and she is handling her own finances with OM not asking me for a dime. I have kept the marital home.
Custody has been tough for me as I learn to have S2 50% of the time. We split every other weekend and every other day during week. The exchange takes place at his daycare so I don't interact with her. The only communication we have since she left end September is via text.
Going back to D, when WW was moving out I calmly asked her what next? I said I wanted to move forward and she already knows I will not live in an open marriage (I previously had that conversation with her; along with telling her we will not be friends through this all considering friends don't do this to each other). I told her D isn't what I wanted but still need to move forward. She responded by saying "well let's wait a year and see what happens". I made the mistake not responding to this... She has clearly chosen a life with OM.
Overall I feel better with little contact other than S2 and financial matters. Ugh.. although I still have triggers that make me angry and upset. At least the lows are not as long nor as bad as they were in recent months.
Anyways, time to keep with GAL and try to continue to detach from situation as best I can.
M: 33 W: 30 T: 14 M: 9 S2 BD: May/2015 (w moves into spare bedroom one week later) EA / PA (discovered): June/2015 W moves out (living with OM): Sep/2015
