Where, oh where am I?

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[quote=Lost08] YET, we can see online when he quickly "checks in" as he changes the status to "online" and then quickly changes it back to "away"

Is there a way you can stop yourself from checking this? If you couldnt see his status, you wouldnt get hurt by this behavior. There is no way to know what his reasons are, but you are mind reading to find the worst one. I guess maybe stronger willpower?? Oh, I am not strong enough for this.

In some ways, I wish I didn't talk to H at all. This hurts. It hurts to not have his support. It hurts to hear him refer to my Dad as almost a stranger. He's not going to call my Dad. He said "Well, tell everyone I say hi."

So how do you start to detach from him? How do you stop calling him and let him call you if he wants? Well, I called him about my Dad. The other calls have been the kids using Skype to call him or H calling my cell phone b/c he needs something or wants to check on me or the kids. I don't call him anymore.
My son will usually ask if H wants to talk to me or he'll come and get me to ask if I am going to talk to H. Then I feel backed into a corner because my S has NO IDEA about what is going on, plus, TBH, there's still that part of me that wants to see H's face and hear his voice. So, I sometimes I cave and say hello. There have been many times over the course of the last few weeks that I have tried avoiding this situation (ie I've gone to bed, the bathroom, to the store) but my son sometimes waits for me and the apartment is so small, H can hear everything that's said. So, again, I feel as if I have to respond.

I'm still stuck here alone with all of the burdens and I'm feeling like there's no hope.

So how do you get unstuck....I'll give you a hint....It starts with a "G"....
Oh, you and that "G" word!!! grrr. LOL Azz, you know how I much trouble I have with them? In DR, there are many examples of goals for the R. But how can I have any goals pertaining to any R, right? So, they're supposed to be about me?
What can I realistically fit in? I did make a start, but I'm not getting very far. This is such a fuzzy area for me. Or maybe it's the procrastinator in me!?! B/C I really have no idea how to do this and do it well.
Goal #1
I make my bed everyday now. One goal being consistently met. Simple, but I felt it was something.
Goal #2
I made plans to begin going to a yoga class one night a week even though it means MORE time my kids are alone which equals more stress in dealing with the homework they didn't do and the dinner they didn't eat. My first class would have been last week, but my Dad was hospitalized and I needed to be there. The kids came home from school on a late bus to notes I had left for them with instructions for leftovers. Guess what? My son ate Cheese-Its crackers for dinner!! And then complained at 9pm that he was hungry.
Goal #3?
Maybe it should be DO NOT look at Skype?
This one is tricky because it's on my PC in the apartment which is MY only access to the internet (other than at the library.) So, when I want to get online to the forums for support and research, it's always in my face. The Skype icon RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. ugh. The only way I know to remove it is to log out and then I have to log in every single time over and over again for the kids to have access. I haven't wanted to do that. hmm. Food for thought, I guess.

Can't I just hire you to develop goals for me???
I DO NOT like this.

I will not discuss the weekend yet as it was another difficult and emotionally draining time. Maybe I'll have the energy later.

I hope you are well.