Or maybe the fog will lift in time, not for any one reason or action on your part, but on your wife's finally seeing the reality of the choice she's making as opposed to the fantasy. With you out of the picture and taking care of business for you and the boys, it's way more difficult for her to use you, your behavior, or her feelings about you and the marriage as distractions/excuses.
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It seems to help me though.
See there? That's why I think you're doing pretty darn good. I can always hear in what you say your struggle to push through and deal with the reality of the situation and in a positive way.
I have felt much the same way. When the first drop the B, move out, whatever, it sends many of us spinning and we react to that.
Once we start focusing more on problem-solving and our own actions, we can find the positives in the situation and use them to our own advantage to work through this.
