Sandi2 - Im a little confused as I dont think I have a WW.
How do you define WW? She can be wayward and not be in an affair, if that's what you are thinking. The foundation of waywardness is built before an A even starts.
Look back on page one of this tread. Just this one paragraph is textbook vocabulary for a WW.
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She stated how she hadn’t loved me for years and had only reconciled previously to give Us one last chance and for the ‘sake of the children’ and how she needs to be happy. She has spent years making everyone else (me and the kids) happy at the expense of her own happiness and it was time to end it. She wants to be happy and not with me.
I could go along with her degree of unhappiness with the SSM, etc., to a point. I do believe women leave a M b/c they give up and want better for their life. I believe it can happen without a third person in the picture.
The pure selfishness is the motivation of waywardness. If she said she tried again for the sake of the children, and with almost the same breath tells you she is going to end all of that and get what makes her happy, then how would you classify it?
She refuses to work on the M and she puts her own desires above what's best for her children.
Get your focus away from her and the list of things you would have to change to keep her. Don't change yourself just to get her back. That doesn't work. Know why? B/c she'll write a new list!
By all means, improve yourself as a man. You can be better than this, can't you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
