Feeling a little down and lonely to say the least.
W has been away for 2 nights and is back later today.
OK I went out on Friday and went to Gym yesterday and will play with the Boys later today (bike ride and games) but the whole sitch feels depressing.
Been reading The Passion Trap which does highlight some of the problems that have been in our M.
Me being the one-down partner and her the One-Up.4 years ago she made statements like ' I feel I'm settling for 2nd Best''I feel I picked the wrong 'type'.
These are statements of a One-up Partner. Although I have changed for the better since 4 years ago evidently its not enough - I get the feeling the ILYBINILWY statement means in her eyes She is still the One-Up partner and I am being 'left behind'- so she has lost (or even never really got it back) respect for me and therefore desire.
The remedies in a lot of these self-help books require both parties to work on the M. W has had enough, thinks she's tried hard to right things and ain't willing to carry on being unhappy.
Our frictionless, no argument M has been the downfall. No Arguments, no discussion on feelings, no change.
Last edited by isittoolate; 10/18/1511:37 AM.
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
