Sorry it came to this thriver, your situation reminds me of my own except I'm only 3 weeks in so far. I've gone dark, but am afraid that my wife isn't the pursuer type.
How does going dark reconcile with the experimentation the DR book talks about? ie if going dark over 2-4 weeks isn't doing anything, why would waiting longer make a difference? Wouldn't it be worth trying a different tactic?
