I agree with dwh that your son is old enough to make up his own mind. It's good to let your S know how to react in a calm and non-reactive manner to his mother, even when he's feeling hurt. You were probing, but not pushy. I am sure that your son appreciated your concern and your feedback, and that you didn't brush him off or tell him what to do.
It hurts doesn't it, when we see our kids hurt?
But I guess your S needs time and space to process all these new developments.
Like what dwh said, this time and space away from your W may be what she needs to see what it is that she will lose if she walks away from the family.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
